"Drink plenty of water", "Eat 
less carbs and fat, but more fruit and veg"; "Sleep more - exercise 
more", "Dress in layers when it is cold and wet outside" ... this type 
of advice is the most banal, the kind we all know because we've heard it
 endless times, some of us probably since childhood.
And yet it is (largely) just 
this kind of most banal advice I found in the electronic pages of "The 
Feelgood Factory on Looking Gorgeous", the book out of the "Infinite 
Ideas" series I finished reading some time last week.
Every now and then, there were
 some make-up tips or other (more or less) useful bits of advice such as
 exercises for a better posture sprinkled across the chapters, but 
honestly, they are hardly worth downloading this book, let alone reading
 it - even though it was for free.
Maybe some women nod 
enthusiastically when they read sentences such as "We know the bust size
 of every Hollywood actress and soap star on the box" - sorry, I'm not 
one of them.
And what about advising women 
to touch the people they are talking to on the arm, while flashing 
smiles at them, making sure those smiles wrinkle your eyes so that its 
fakeness is not instantly obvious? What does it reveal about an  
author's* self-perception as a woman when each and every tip comes with 
the label "to make yourself attractive to men", "to look your best so 
that men will notice you"?
Of course I want to be 
attractive, and of course I want to look my best according to each 
situation - a different kind of look for, say, when I'm out running with
 my friend than to what I wear to the office where I want the visual 
impression of me match the skill and experience I have acquired in my 
line of work.
But believe it or not, I am 
not constantly wondering what impression I am making on men, and when I 
eat or drink, it is not with a constantly nagging voice in my head, 
telling me that this is unhealthy and will go straight to my hips.
Some of us actually do like 
themselves, you know, and are not permanently trying to optimize their 
looks - in spite of me really, really liking nice clothes, especially 
dresses.
On the whole, I found the 
advice given here way too banal (beauty "secrets"? I didn't come across any) and what the author obviously expects to
 be the average woman's motivation for wanting to look and feel good 
surprisingly shallow.
I enjoyed previously read books from the "Infinite Ideas" series. This one was disappointing. Entirely my own fault, of course - what else did I expect from a book of that title? And I could have simply stopped reading as soon as I realized which way this was heading. Why I still continued until the end of this (fortunately short) book is anyone's guess, mine including.
* The book was co-authored by several women, led by Elisabeth Wilson.

 
Thanks for warning me off this! I'm sure I wouldn't enjoy reading it either!
ReplyDeleteIt was plain stupid of me to download it in the first place, really.
DeleteNope, it's not going on my reading list... But somehow we always tend to feel a little bit tempted by promises of quick-fixex, don't we?? At least enough to cast at glance at them if they turn up in the magazine we're flickering through, or on a website, or... ;)
ReplyDeleteYou got it right, Monica :-)
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